A Life That is not Lived

From the earliest years something not so subtle led me away from anything that might have been authentic about my self and I have throughout my life grieved that loss. The reality today is most likely that there are a minimal amount of choices for our children as well. What is in store for them should they rebel against the authority figures in their lives that distract them from what is authentic in themselves.  Most often they have not been equipped with the tools to find their authentic way. To do that against prevailing ways would be to invite disaster at that time of their lives. Ultimately by the standards of the present collective consciousness it is considered a normal stage of development to form and mold the developing identity and not to attend to any such insistence from children. This often takes precedent over exploring with the child what might be a more authentic process.
I contemplate why it is in these times that we can not realise the importance of knowing ourself in an authentic way as we come to cope, negotiate and fit into the external world. Perhaps though, it is increasingly coming to be considered to be an important aspect of a childs orientation; more so than in past years. It is becoming clear than, more  it ever has been,  what is lost in  following the older  ways. But perhaps the fear involved in not having the security of a more conventional understanding is too  great and too much for most to bear. Do we really know how to attend to what is authentic in our children and even in ourselves. I think this has to be the first step taken.
There was a time when I was lost, when what was authentic seemed to be completely submerged, below superficial dreams, narcissistic desires and interests that seemed to have been implanted into me. Now what is authentic is always close to me, a breath or heart beat away, although my well ingrained habits, which are a result  of my conditioned identity, remain ebbing and tugging in an effort to take me away. At least now there is a realisation that to follow these habits  only leads to a life that is not lived.
Surely from this place of increased focus on awareness we can create a learning experience for developing children where what is authentic and real in them leads them in how they come to identify and relate with themselves in life.

5 thoughts on “A Life That is not Lived

    1. Yes There is some change in Canada mostly from smaller private schools but in my observations of the more bureaucratic institution change is slow and there is still a traditional pressure to make teaching about conditioning students in the basics. This is at times driven by parents and public pressure. I have a friend that just completed his PHD in Education and he felt that the whole system of research and the language and structure of approving thesis proposals is suspect.

      I am still reading your book Hariod. I am sixty something percent finished. I do enjoy it. I passed it on tho friend who struggled a bit with the vocabulary. She is an avid reader and has a long history of involvement with Buddhist meditation. I have had exposure to philosophical concepts and theories and see much relevance in debunking old ideas in a more experiential examination as you seem to have done. If you would like more feedback let me know.
      I appreciate your supportive commentary Hariod.


      1. Many thanks for continuing to work your way through my book Gord; I greatly appreciate it. I do recognise that some people baulk at my grammatical style, and I readily admit (as I do in the preface), that I am untutored in this regard. Still, I maintain that that there is a consistency of meaning which runs throughout the text, and some of those who make it to the end have told me how much they appreciated my slightly novel (excuse pun) approach. Chapter 14 is probably the densest of all, and that is where I explain just what The Sway of Contentedness is. The easier approach, and one taken by many other authors on this subject, is simply to allude to ‘something’ ineffable, at the same time suggesting that this is what the spiritual seeker unwittingly desires, and equally so, already unwittingly possesses. I made my best shot at giving a grounded explanation of this, though admittedly it does take focused attention to grasp the meaning. You kindly asked about more feedback Gord, and if you felt able or willing to update your review on Amazon once you get to the end, then I would be both interested and extremely grateful.

        All best wishes.



      2. Its not an effort but more a matter of processing. As I said to my friend, I feel that there is something that is evolving that we are a part of, inseparable from and in our form we are perhaps on the forefront of the formulation of it. My thoughts influenced by something more intuitive and open to a greater envisioning I would like to hope, are that there is much merit in attempting to work out conceptual understanding. The key for me is to understand through awareness this process in oneself. There is a dualistic aspect to our existence but to see our grounding in something more formless is essential in that evolution. So I commend you on your attempt and I feel that there is a lot of value in it. I have read novel explanations and formulations from you, thus the processing. From a point of it being an expression of your experience with the less dualistic existence it is very much of value. I am content in presence but I dont see the benefit in purposely avoiding the world of form and the interaction between the two. We exist as both the form and the formless and there is a movement and flow and interaction between the two. There is a blog there in my ramble somewhere.


      3. Actually Gord, far from being any ‘ramble’, what you have expressed here is very beautiful and profound, an ontological perspective that I am pleased to share with you.


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