Back to the Heart

Deconstructing God   Article from the NYT

A psychology professor has tapped into a rich vein of popular concern, concluding that people in recent decades have grown more self-centered and entitled. But is it true?

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These days I am really seeing how habitual it is for me to make effort to avoid feeling vulnerable. It is an obsession however unconscious as well of our collective consciousness. We are not taught to tolerate the reality of our vulnerability. There is a common perception that it is a place of weakness and insufficiency and this is reinforced in most aspects and relationships in life. You can see it at play in recent politics especially in the American Republicans who obsessively pressure President Obama away from a diplomatic focus towards adopting more aggressive tactics in his foreign policy approach, most recently with Russia and Iran. What is at the heart of this other than fear and an increased sense of vulnerability and insecurity. Male politicians don’t seem to ever understand that aggressive behaviour does not resolve anything.
Much of human behaviour seems to be about diverting from this place of consciousness. We are taught not to trust our vulnerability, especially males, and we lose the way to our hearts in this practice. Our relationships with others and with ourselves is compromised often coming to be about defending something that they don’t really understand about themselves a result of avoiding seeing a fundamental truth of our being. Many of us wake up to the realisation that there is a sense that something is missing in this way and sometimes we look to fill that gap in superficial ways that provide us with reminders that there is a deeper truth within. But as long as we are attached to ur traditionally conditioned social and cultural priorities, we remain quite habitually in a place of being veiled from our authentic experience of life. Ironically this place of vulnerability is where our sense of humanity and compassion emanates from and where we encounter an expanded sense of living fully in the mystery of living.
The way our world has become organized does not leave much space for feeling and relating from this place of vulnerability and therefore the collective and global experience has become one of fragmentation and separation. There have been substantial collective and global consequences of living in this way. We havent been able to sort out as of yet how to differentiate between authentic individual expression of our being and narcissistic self-indulgence and our collective global relationships reflect that.
Ultimately coming to live life in a way that is a more authentic, embracing of this truth of our vulnerability that we are, leads us to live at the heart and that ultimately affects the actions and decisions that we make.
Maybe I am wrong about this but ultimately every where I turn it seems that humanity is trapped in this place of self-indulgence and we entertain superficial gestures of giving and helping but we can not seem to take the step to genuinely change our ways to a degree that we do what we must to care for our planet and all its inhabitants. One thing that I do know is that I have to come to take responsibility in a way that is more inclusive and I realise that it is no easy step to move away from self fixation. I have discovered a very helpful and insightful book along the way in reading Timothy Frekes “The Mystery Experience”. He explores this experience of deeper living and ways that we can connect more authentically to life and to others. For some of us it involves making a conscious choice to look deeper within and to explore and more intimately come to know who and what we are.

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